Recently one of my best friends shared a pic on her FB timeline. It was a onesie hanging on a hanger that said, "My Mommy doesn't want your advice"
Hilarious but So true! People ought to realise that their advice often is unwanted and not really required. More than half of what they say, we already know. And the rest, we probably do not agree with. So many times I have people telling me, "Oh your baby's hungry... Oh his diaper needs changing.. He looks sleepy..." Well, all moms know pretty much that although all the advice we get from well-wishers, friends, family and even strangers isn't always welcome, there's probably no escaping it. So I've decided to try and see the humor in it all. That way it won't irritate me.. After all, there's something about babies that brings out the compassionate side in everyone, hence all the advice! :P And one incident was quite funny, so I thought let me share it here.
My family went out for dinner with two of my hubby's ex-colleagues, and all three families had sons! My son being the youngest (he was 4-5 months back then) and the other two boys were around 2.5-4 yrs old.
So at the table, when Zachy woke up and was hungry, I started making his bottle (cuz my baby is bottle-fed since he was 2 months old) one of the moms who was sitting right next to me said, "Oh! You should breastfeed him for at least 6 months.." I replied, "Oh yes I know! I also wish I had succeeded in doing so, but I haven't.." Thankfully, she didn't talk about it very long. Minutes later, Zachy started putting his fingers in his mouth and sucking on almost half of his fist, at which the same mother said, "Oh you know, people say not to let babies suck on their fingers, but I think its perfectly fine! You shouldn't stop your baby from sucking on his fingers" To THAT I heartily agreed! I really don't think anybody has a life-long problem of finger-sucking, so I don't really care if babies soothe themselves that way. {PS. I am aware that dirty fingers in the mouth can cause infections, but as long as the fingers are clean, I really don't care}
Anyway, after dinner, we walked out of the restaurant and this time the other lady was standing with me and talking to me about stuff... And she said to me, "I noticed you were bottle feeding. I think that's a really great idea... It frees up the mom to such a great extent.. You can go out when you need to without breastfeeding demands restricting you.. etc etc" I was glad she wasn't judgmental about me not being able to breastfeed.
Minutes later, our dear Zachy decided to demonstrate his fist-sucking capability again, LOL. At which this mom started saying, "Oh no no no no ......! Don't let him suck his fingers...! It's not good for him at all.. (and so on and so forth)"
It was such a joke..! Two mothers offering EXACTLY opposite advice about bottle-feeding and finger sucking! Haah! Made my day..ummm.. I mean evening :) ;)
Hilarious but So true! People ought to realise that their advice often is unwanted and not really required. More than half of what they say, we already know. And the rest, we probably do not agree with. So many times I have people telling me, "Oh your baby's hungry... Oh his diaper needs changing.. He looks sleepy..." Well, all moms know pretty much that although all the advice we get from well-wishers, friends, family and even strangers isn't always welcome, there's probably no escaping it. So I've decided to try and see the humor in it all. That way it won't irritate me.. After all, there's something about babies that brings out the compassionate side in everyone, hence all the advice! :P And one incident was quite funny, so I thought let me share it here.
My family went out for dinner with two of my hubby's ex-colleagues, and all three families had sons! My son being the youngest (he was 4-5 months back then) and the other two boys were around 2.5-4 yrs old.
So at the table, when Zachy woke up and was hungry, I started making his bottle (cuz my baby is bottle-fed since he was 2 months old) one of the moms who was sitting right next to me said, "Oh! You should breastfeed him for at least 6 months.." I replied, "Oh yes I know! I also wish I had succeeded in doing so, but I haven't.." Thankfully, she didn't talk about it very long. Minutes later, Zachy started putting his fingers in his mouth and sucking on almost half of his fist, at which the same mother said, "Oh you know, people say not to let babies suck on their fingers, but I think its perfectly fine! You shouldn't stop your baby from sucking on his fingers" To THAT I heartily agreed! I really don't think anybody has a life-long problem of finger-sucking, so I don't really care if babies soothe themselves that way. {PS. I am aware that dirty fingers in the mouth can cause infections, but as long as the fingers are clean, I really don't care}
Anyway, after dinner, we walked out of the restaurant and this time the other lady was standing with me and talking to me about stuff... And she said to me, "I noticed you were bottle feeding. I think that's a really great idea... It frees up the mom to such a great extent.. You can go out when you need to without breastfeeding demands restricting you.. etc etc" I was glad she wasn't judgmental about me not being able to breastfeed.
Minutes later, our dear Zachy decided to demonstrate his fist-sucking capability again, LOL. At which this mom started saying, "Oh no no no no ......! Don't let him suck his fingers...! It's not good for him at all.. (and so on and so forth)"
It was such a joke..! Two mothers offering EXACTLY opposite advice about bottle-feeding and finger sucking! Haah! Made my day..ummm.. I mean evening :) ;)
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