Don't Forget To Date!!

Hi There!

Are you a new mom too? Well, I'm not that new anymore.. It's been a year, but yeah, I guess in many ways I'm still new ;)

Isn't it amazing listening to our baby babble endlessly, trying to speak the kind of words he hears us speak? I enjoy talking to my son when he keeps on talking with words that I can barely make out :D And isn't it amazing when your kid cuddles with you before going to sleep at night? Or when he reaches his hand behind your head, pulls you close and licks you leaving a trail of saliva as his sign of love? Well, don't we all love that!

But for today, I give you one piece of advice. Please give due attention to your hubby dearest. Go out on a date with him. Arrange a babysitter and give him what was his in the first place - your undivided attention. :)

Enjoy mothering!

Funny Advice

Recently one of my best friends shared a pic on her FB timeline. It was a onesie hanging on a hanger that said, "My Mommy doesn't want your advice"

Hilarious but So true! People ought to realise that their advice often is unwanted and not really required. More than half of what they say, we already know. And the rest, we probably do not agree with. So many times I have people telling me, "Oh your baby's hungry... Oh his diaper needs changing.. He looks sleepy..."  Well, all moms know pretty much that although all the advice we get from well-wishers, friends, family and even strangers isn't always welcome, there's probably no escaping it. So I've decided to try and see the humor in it all. That way it won't irritate me.. After all, there's something about babies that brings out the compassionate side in everyone, hence all the advice! :P And one incident was quite funny, so I thought let me share it here.

My family went out for dinner with two of my hubby's ex-colleagues, and all three families had sons! My son being the youngest (he was 4-5 months back then) and the other two boys were around 2.5-4 yrs old.

So at the table, when Zachy woke up and was hungry, I started making his bottle (cuz my baby is bottle-fed since he was 2 months old) one of the moms who was sitting right next to me said, "Oh! You should breastfeed him for at least 6 months.." I replied, "Oh yes I know! I also wish I had succeeded in doing so, but I haven't.." Thankfully, she didn't talk about it very long. Minutes later, Zachy started putting his fingers in his mouth and sucking on almost half of his fist, at which the same mother said, "Oh you know, people say not to let babies suck on their fingers, but I think its perfectly fine! You shouldn't stop your baby from sucking on his fingers" To THAT I heartily agreed! I really don't think anybody has a life-long problem of finger-sucking, so I don't really care if babies soothe themselves that way. {PS. I am aware that dirty fingers in the mouth can cause infections, but as long as the fingers are clean, I really don't care}

Anyway, after dinner, we walked out of the restaurant and this time the other lady was standing with me and talking to me about stuff... And she said to me, "I noticed you were bottle feeding. I think that's a really great idea... It frees up the mom to such a great extent.. You can go out when you need to without breastfeeding demands restricting you.. etc etc" I was glad she wasn't judgmental about me not being able to breastfeed.
Minutes later, our dear Zachy decided to demonstrate his fist-sucking capability again, LOL. At which this mom started saying, "Oh no no no no ......! Don't let him suck his fingers...! It's not good for him at all.. (and so on and so forth)"

It was such a joke..! Two mothers offering EXACTLY opposite advice about bottle-feeding and finger sucking! Haah! Made my day..ummm.. I mean evening :) ;)

True love is 'Band-Aid and a Chocolate Smoothie'!

So with the baby finally asleep, I was taken up by my sweet-toothy desire when I realised I had some leftover 'mawa' from the Gajar-ka-halwa I made a few days ago. And bubbling with enthusiasm, I rushed the mawa onto the grating board and ouch!! The mawa broke into two and my thumb got grated instead! (OUCH!!!!)

I ran to the tap trying to wash away the blood, but the flow just wouldn't stop!!! And then entered my hero (As Zachy would probably say when he grows up: My Daddy's StrongEST!) :D He quickly helped me tie it up and then decided he would go get band-aid for me (even though it was 11:30 at night!)

When he got back, I found two choco-smoothies in his pocket :)
Hubby darling decided to quench my sweet-craving while he took care of my wound. What would I do without you Aby? You're my hero :D Love you! Zachy's gonna have a wonderful role model in you as he grows up :) Thanks for that!

Save your marriage

Here I am again, eager to share something new my husband and I started this past December. First of all, a very happy new year to all of you out there! Thank you for taking the time to read my blog posts :)

So here goes. You see, I recently heard about this custom the Catholics have called the "Advent Calendar". So a month or so before Christmas, they give small gifts to each person in the family every single day. I was so taken up by this custom, that I decided we should do something similar. We decided we would write a small note with a compliment to each other every day till 1st of Jan. Odd dates would be his turn (Odd stands for Adam) and even dates for me (Even stands for Eve)

I'm so glad my husband was faithful in doing this with me through the past month. It has been intensely uplifting and encouraging. We realized there's great value in saying something positive to each other and making each other feel special. It's particularly wonderful to write something positive to the other after a fight! Lol.

Its important to preserve love in your marriage, especially after you have a kid. Many parents forget to continue to bond with each other and end up living their lives around their children, and when their kids fly the nest, they are left staring at each others, feeling like strangers. Let that not be our story. Let's resolve this new year, that along with being wonderful parents, we will be even better partners to our spouse.